Wow. I have a really bad habit of spacing out my posts. Looks like I might have found my new years resolution. The last few months have been a little crazy for us.We have been dealing with one of the biggest decisions we have ever made in our four years of marriage. Jared has been unsure for a long time. He has been going back and forth about staying in the Marine corps, or getting out. He tells me all the time that he is not happy with his job. ( I think he secretly loves it, but he would never admit it) One day he hates his job,but then comes home the next happy and with hysterical stories of what they had done that day. All with a huge smile on his face. Its been a little confusing. Well about three months ago Jared came home with some unexpected news. We had orders to California. This was MAJOR change of plans. We had expected to ride out the rest of Jared's contract here. None of our friends were getting orders. The career planner had explained that it was due to budget cuts, and that they were only moving people they absolutely had to. So there we were. Stuck making this gigantic decision that were were not prepared for. We didn't know what we were going to do. We had just started setting up roots. We had bought a home, found a great church, made some wonderful friends, and were close to Jared's family. Yet here we were faced with a nearly impossible decision. Our choices were, Take the orders. Sell the house and move to California. Or deny those orders, wait for them to issue new ones or get out. Which if Jared were to deny them for a second time,it would have given him a negative paperwork, and made it impossible for him to re enlist if need be. That was getting rid of my husbands security blanket. Which he was NOT ok with. So we put the house on the market. We went back and forth on what we were going to do. We even went as far as putting an offer in on a town home. Only to retract that offer a few weeks later. Every decision we had made felt wrong We had to of been driving our Realtor insane.Poor Chuck. Not to mention how flaky I must have looked on Facebook. Every day it was something new. We changed our minds constantly. One day we were getting out and moving back home. The next we were staying in Fredericksburg, then we were taking new orders. It was ridiculous. Looking back I understand. Our life was so loud and hectic at the time, we were completely drowning out what God was trying to tell us. We were so consumed with fear and uncertainty that we had pushed Him aside. Finally during one of my church small group sessions, our leader asked if anyone needed prayer. Normally I am not one to ask. I am an introvert. I don't like bringing attention to myself if I can help it. But God told me to ask. So I did. After that things began to become clearer. The very next day Jared came home with wonderful news. His new orders had been pushed back six moths. That gave us a little space to breath. We took the house off the market for a few months, so we could get through the holidays, and make a few repairs. When we finally came to our final decision, It didn't feel wrong like it did before. We were actually happy with it. Content, and ready for out next step. So here we are. The house is still off the market. We are planning to re list in after January 1st. We have a trip planned January 10th. We will taking a day trip to Jacksonville NC to pick out a floor plan for a new home, or to place a contingency contract on a inventory home. On one hand I am excited, and happy to be moving back. I never though I would say that since I did not like Jacksonville the first time around. On the other hand I am sad. I will miss our church and friends. Crossroads is were it all took off. Jared became a follower of Christ, and we both were baptized. We even have a baby dedication this Sunday for Elijah. So much has happened here for us. It is so bitter sweet to be leaving. But I know in my heart we have made the right decision. A decision lead by God. If only we had taken the time to slow down and listen to begin with. This entire fiasco would have gone a lot smoother. There would have been less arguments, and tears. We know now where the mistake was made. From now on we can take these big decisions head on. With God at our side we can and will make the best decisions possible for our family. The papers have been singed, the moving date set. Its time to buckle up and get this thing moving. So here we go.
Thursday, December 4, 2014
Answers among Chaos
Wow. I have a really bad habit of spacing out my posts. Looks like I might have found my new years resolution. The last few months have been a little crazy for us.We have been dealing with one of the biggest decisions we have ever made in our four years of marriage. Jared has been unsure for a long time. He has been going back and forth about staying in the Marine corps, or getting out. He tells me all the time that he is not happy with his job. ( I think he secretly loves it, but he would never admit it) One day he hates his job,but then comes home the next happy and with hysterical stories of what they had done that day. All with a huge smile on his face. Its been a little confusing. Well about three months ago Jared came home with some unexpected news. We had orders to California. This was MAJOR change of plans. We had expected to ride out the rest of Jared's contract here. None of our friends were getting orders. The career planner had explained that it was due to budget cuts, and that they were only moving people they absolutely had to. So there we were. Stuck making this gigantic decision that were were not prepared for. We didn't know what we were going to do. We had just started setting up roots. We had bought a home, found a great church, made some wonderful friends, and were close to Jared's family. Yet here we were faced with a nearly impossible decision. Our choices were, Take the orders. Sell the house and move to California. Or deny those orders, wait for them to issue new ones or get out. Which if Jared were to deny them for a second time,it would have given him a negative paperwork, and made it impossible for him to re enlist if need be. That was getting rid of my husbands security blanket. Which he was NOT ok with. So we put the house on the market. We went back and forth on what we were going to do. We even went as far as putting an offer in on a town home. Only to retract that offer a few weeks later. Every decision we had made felt wrong We had to of been driving our Realtor insane.Poor Chuck. Not to mention how flaky I must have looked on Facebook. Every day it was something new. We changed our minds constantly. One day we were getting out and moving back home. The next we were staying in Fredericksburg, then we were taking new orders. It was ridiculous. Looking back I understand. Our life was so loud and hectic at the time, we were completely drowning out what God was trying to tell us. We were so consumed with fear and uncertainty that we had pushed Him aside. Finally during one of my church small group sessions, our leader asked if anyone needed prayer. Normally I am not one to ask. I am an introvert. I don't like bringing attention to myself if I can help it. But God told me to ask. So I did. After that things began to become clearer. The very next day Jared came home with wonderful news. His new orders had been pushed back six moths. That gave us a little space to breath. We took the house off the market for a few months, so we could get through the holidays, and make a few repairs. When we finally came to our final decision, It didn't feel wrong like it did before. We were actually happy with it. Content, and ready for out next step. So here we are. The house is still off the market. We are planning to re list in after January 1st. We have a trip planned January 10th. We will taking a day trip to Jacksonville NC to pick out a floor plan for a new home, or to place a contingency contract on a inventory home. On one hand I am excited, and happy to be moving back. I never though I would say that since I did not like Jacksonville the first time around. On the other hand I am sad. I will miss our church and friends. Crossroads is were it all took off. Jared became a follower of Christ, and we both were baptized. We even have a baby dedication this Sunday for Elijah. So much has happened here for us. It is so bitter sweet to be leaving. But I know in my heart we have made the right decision. A decision lead by God. If only we had taken the time to slow down and listen to begin with. This entire fiasco would have gone a lot smoother. There would have been less arguments, and tears. We know now where the mistake was made. From now on we can take these big decisions head on. With God at our side we can and will make the best decisions possible for our family. The papers have been singed, the moving date set. Its time to buckle up and get this thing moving. So here we go.
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